shurlyjean
10-28-2007, 03:48 PM
OK... the lease has not been signed,,, my hubby goes at lightning speed to get things done and mom is a snail... They are both black and white with their ideas... it's either this or that... or none at all. My mom tries her darnest to get her own way and hubby calls her on this... she hates that and talks in circles.
I tend to want "gray" compromise.... lets work this out. Hubby has been patient, but when he get's going the time is totally inappropriate and his pace is way too fast,,, but he thinks he right.
So hubby and I talked to mom,,, and she is maddddd.... She tried to run away, but hubby touched her and she said he pushed her.... I was there and she needed to stay to hear us out. This is how she gets her way... she runs, delays, manipulates.
Overall she is a really good person, but a pain in the ...... so is hubby....
I cried all day yesterday because I knew these ideas were not going to be to her liking... hubby says it is tough love...I don't understand why she has to move, but hubby did say the apartment opened up and that is why... He did have good reasons for it... but snail... just can't do that.
She is a reactive, not proactive.... which drives hubby crazy,,, me too sometimes, but I tend to go with the flow. Life is too short to get bent out of shape... We were making snail pace headway, but now everything is back to being rotten. Hubby would not listen to me about the time,,, he had to "be right".... now he is backing off a little.
He thinks she rather be with her cats then the grandkids... she LOVES the grandkids and they know... but hubby has never taken the time to even realize this... he just things her demeaners says it all... she is a negative personality,, but that doesn't mean she doesn't love the grandkids.... plus people need to know how to deal with a variety of personalities...
So that was my last 24 hours....sucky... Couldn't even post my weekly swap, but did get some Christmas cards made.
Shirley
I tend to want "gray" compromise.... lets work this out. Hubby has been patient, but when he get's going the time is totally inappropriate and his pace is way too fast,,, but he thinks he right.
So hubby and I talked to mom,,, and she is maddddd.... She tried to run away, but hubby touched her and she said he pushed her.... I was there and she needed to stay to hear us out. This is how she gets her way... she runs, delays, manipulates.
Overall she is a really good person, but a pain in the ...... so is hubby....
I cried all day yesterday because I knew these ideas were not going to be to her liking... hubby says it is tough love...I don't understand why she has to move, but hubby did say the apartment opened up and that is why... He did have good reasons for it... but snail... just can't do that.
She is a reactive, not proactive.... which drives hubby crazy,,, me too sometimes, but I tend to go with the flow. Life is too short to get bent out of shape... We were making snail pace headway, but now everything is back to being rotten. Hubby would not listen to me about the time,,, he had to "be right".... now he is backing off a little.
He thinks she rather be with her cats then the grandkids... she LOVES the grandkids and they know... but hubby has never taken the time to even realize this... he just things her demeaners says it all... she is a negative personality,, but that doesn't mean she doesn't love the grandkids.... plus people need to know how to deal with a variety of personalities...
So that was my last 24 hours....sucky... Couldn't even post my weekly swap, but did get some Christmas cards made.
Shirley