threefriends91
06-23-2008, 10:16 AM
Well last week l shared with you that l sent my sister a birthday card...l have two sisters that have not talked to me in over 6 years now..Both of my sisters stoped talking to me when me and Terry got together.
1- They felt l did not morn my late hb death long enough..After 20 years of marrage the last 5 years we waited for a heart transplant that never came..after 3 years of his death Terry and l started to date and married two years later..
2- When we got married in 2003, we invited them to our wedding and they showed up in shorts..and never said a word to me or Terry..However they put my daughter in between them though out the service and keep telling her how much they missed her dad..She did tell them off and said they should be happy for me if they really loved me..then she brock down crying..
3- l did get one letter from my older sister which said she needed time to morn my late hb death..about the time l started to date Terry.
Anyway l feel the time for change for me is now..and l need to forgive them so l can move on in my life..l should say l was more hurt then angry..but l do get these feelings mixed up..
So on Thursday l sent my younger sister a birthday card and told her l Prayed all was well with her and even told her l loved her..then l wished her well.
Then l wrote my older sister a card and note..l updated her on what has been going on in my life and wished her well. l then said if she wanted to go out for a coffee that ..that would be fine with me..
l don't want to fight or even try to explain my self to them..l don't think l have to..there is only 3 people l need to answer to that is the Lord. my husband and myself..So you might say l'm diong this for myself as God says we must forgive those who have hurt us..and that is what l'm doing.
l really don't want or think it could ever be like it was with them but its a start..and l really want to get on with my life and let the old garbage go..l don't even know what to say to them..l'm Praying God will help me out with this..So please Pray, we are getting together in about two weeks and l must say l'm a little worried on how it might go...l just Pray we can have a good open talk mend our wounds and walk away.
Our year has started out with one problem after another but l'm determinded to end this year better then it started..anyone that has any idea on how to deal with this l'm open..l need all the help l can get..l just want to do the right thing ..
1- They felt l did not morn my late hb death long enough..After 20 years of marrage the last 5 years we waited for a heart transplant that never came..after 3 years of his death Terry and l started to date and married two years later..
2- When we got married in 2003, we invited them to our wedding and they showed up in shorts..and never said a word to me or Terry..However they put my daughter in between them though out the service and keep telling her how much they missed her dad..She did tell them off and said they should be happy for me if they really loved me..then she brock down crying..
3- l did get one letter from my older sister which said she needed time to morn my late hb death..about the time l started to date Terry.
Anyway l feel the time for change for me is now..and l need to forgive them so l can move on in my life..l should say l was more hurt then angry..but l do get these feelings mixed up..
So on Thursday l sent my younger sister a birthday card and told her l Prayed all was well with her and even told her l loved her..then l wished her well.
Then l wrote my older sister a card and note..l updated her on what has been going on in my life and wished her well. l then said if she wanted to go out for a coffee that ..that would be fine with me..
l don't want to fight or even try to explain my self to them..l don't think l have to..there is only 3 people l need to answer to that is the Lord. my husband and myself..So you might say l'm diong this for myself as God says we must forgive those who have hurt us..and that is what l'm doing.
l really don't want or think it could ever be like it was with them but its a start..and l really want to get on with my life and let the old garbage go..l don't even know what to say to them..l'm Praying God will help me out with this..So please Pray, we are getting together in about two weeks and l must say l'm a little worried on how it might go...l just Pray we can have a good open talk mend our wounds and walk away.
Our year has started out with one problem after another but l'm determinded to end this year better then it started..anyone that has any idea on how to deal with this l'm open..l need all the help l can get..l just want to do the right thing ..