Glitterby
01-22-2011, 12:41 PM
Not sure where to begin but here goes,
I have been married for almost 7 years to a navy man.... he retired just over three years ago and took a job with WAste Managmet and was quickly promoted into managment. We have moved 3 times now in three years due to this job. He works 60+ hours a week and other then a bit of laundry he no longer does anything around the house. I am talking the man things . I have been left with all the bill paying, decision making, cooking, cleaning, errends, phone calls, and dealing with the rental property. All he does is eat , watch tv and sleep.
I never get to watch tv anymore as I do not watch the same things he has begun watching, we never have meaningful talks anymore even though I have begged, cried and even raised my voice. I deal with 100% of anything for the kids and I might as well be single.
I have tried so hard to be understanding to his demanding job hours and also his diabeties issues. I cook him good healthy meals to eat when he walks in from work at * in the evening. I make sure the house is cleaned up for him and the kids are settled down so he has quiet after his long day. I do my best not to complain and I try to remember that as a stay at home mom it is my job to take care of most of the things here at home.
But it has been forever sense he has offered to take me out for a meal. He never picks up after himself andy more and I am finally at wits end. I love him very much. He works hard to provide a pay check but that seems to be the only thing he feels he needs to do.
Am I wrong in feeling that as a family there should be more then just his paycheck? After all that is not why I married him.... If that was what I had been after I would have found me an old coot to marry instead. I feel depressed and alone.
Sorry to ramble but I am feeling so down today.
Thanks for listening to my whinning.
Carrie
I have been married for almost 7 years to a navy man.... he retired just over three years ago and took a job with WAste Managmet and was quickly promoted into managment. We have moved 3 times now in three years due to this job. He works 60+ hours a week and other then a bit of laundry he no longer does anything around the house. I am talking the man things . I have been left with all the bill paying, decision making, cooking, cleaning, errends, phone calls, and dealing with the rental property. All he does is eat , watch tv and sleep.
I never get to watch tv anymore as I do not watch the same things he has begun watching, we never have meaningful talks anymore even though I have begged, cried and even raised my voice. I deal with 100% of anything for the kids and I might as well be single.
I have tried so hard to be understanding to his demanding job hours and also his diabeties issues. I cook him good healthy meals to eat when he walks in from work at * in the evening. I make sure the house is cleaned up for him and the kids are settled down so he has quiet after his long day. I do my best not to complain and I try to remember that as a stay at home mom it is my job to take care of most of the things here at home.
But it has been forever sense he has offered to take me out for a meal. He never picks up after himself andy more and I am finally at wits end. I love him very much. He works hard to provide a pay check but that seems to be the only thing he feels he needs to do.
Am I wrong in feeling that as a family there should be more then just his paycheck? After all that is not why I married him.... If that was what I had been after I would have found me an old coot to marry instead. I feel depressed and alone.
Sorry to ramble but I am feeling so down today.
Thanks for listening to my whinning.
Carrie